Licking and Grooming is a research rat's equivilant behavior
of tender loving care parents can give to children.
The behavior is quantified in research to demonstrate the efficacy of
various parenting and training patterns.
There are two types of white research rats;
those who lick and groom their young, and those who don't.
Those who do not, produce off spring who do not lick and groom,
and for generations we have a community of unloved rats.
The other type, those who lick and groom their young,
produce offspring who lick and groom naturally, and so on for generations.
Many mental illnesses have now been definately discovered to be genetic,
in that a specific chromosome and alilielle carry the defective gene. (equal to that in the rats who do not lick and groom)
A short gene on this chromosome predisposes the new child to bipolar disorder.
A family of humans with bipolar genes will produce offspring with the
shortened genes both because of the genetic disposition to recreate and
because of the environmental factors that exist in the
behavioral patterns of the family.
This will extend for generations without interupting the cycle of insane behaviors.
The Jacobs' family, my family carries such a gene.
When I was younger I thought that meant our decendants were destined
to carry the gene through time and all eternity.
The only way, we thought to end the cycle was to end procreation
of that genetic option.
Through the generations many families have done just that, and died out.
The Jacobs name comes forward from George Jacobs I, II, III and IV
on to John Jacobs (there were a couple of Johns, and then Woodman Jacobs.
Seven generations from Woodman there have been only my two brothers
who carried the Jacobs name into posterity, and with in the bipolar genes.
I often thought that was a good thing, because why propigate bipolar illness.
The plot thickens.
In this same research it was demonstrated that the bipolar gene can be changed,
evolved out within one generation in research rats through enviormental
behaviors of the parenting rats.
A child rat taken from the community of non lickers and groomers,
adopted into a family of lickers and groomers will not only become a licker and groomer
by behavior, but his DNA will be changed,
and he/she will propigate lickers and groomers as decendants.
There is a special word to indicate this type of genetic evolution
which takes place in one generation.
To me the special word is WOW,
but go to Psycheducation.org for a scientific name and definition.
We are a community of mothers who care about our offspring,
and the incidious genetic trait of bipolar being passed on.
We have chosen not to end our genetic line and have had children.
Now we see those behaviors, those ravashing insane behaviors in our children
and grand children, taking lives and turning them upside down,
in spite of all the work we have done for our own lives.
Some have managed to adopt and pass on the licking and grooming behaviors
and stop the cycle.
Some have made the attempt and failed, but tried with the grandchildren.
I have told my children about this and that we must stop the cycle.
In 1690 George Jacobs I and II were hung for withccraft.
Behaviors that got them noticed and labeled as different were used to persecute
and prosecute them as witches.
Seven generations later Woodman began our family line.
God has told us the sins of the fathers will be visited upon
the children for seven generations.
This has gone on 7 plus 7 that we can document.
Finally we have been given the tools to STOP the INSANITY.
The LICKING and GROOMING Tools we need to create genetic evolution
in our children's life times.
I will be posting Licking and grooming tools on this web sight
for those families who wish to stop the cycle.
Take it seriously, read study, comment and add to the
tool kits to stop the propigation of BiPolar Disorder in our families.
We can stop it in our life time.
That is worth everything to me to know that.
That is what I have lived for and that is what I will live for,
to head the campaign to wipe it out in our life time.
Follow me on this blog and share it with every mother you know
who wants to protect her children from the ravages of insanity.
Saturday, June 13, 2009
Wednesday, May 13, 2009
I am a great diamond
I am a great diamond that shines brightlyI can let the whole world see.Better still than that.No matter where I'm atI know that I can always love me.*****This is a diamond.A diamond is worth a lot of money.when I put mud on the diamond.
it is still worth a lot of money.Whe I put paint on the diamond . . it is still worth a lot.When someone has a bigger diamondor one that is brighteror one that shines more,my diamondis still worth the same amount.It is still valuable.***Here is my diamond.I will shine it.I will put it in the light.I will put it in a gold ring.It is still worth the same.I an show it to the world.I can hide it in a box.It is still worth the same.The diamond is worth a lot of money.Nothing I do can change its worth.*****I am a diamond.I am worth a lot more that a real diamond.I have a lot of value.There is not enough money in the whole worldto replace me.I am uniqueI am specia. I am valuableI am a diamond.****I am a diaomond II can shine brightly.I can do good things.
it is still worth a lot of money.Whe I put paint on the diamond . . it is still worth a lot.When someone has a bigger diamondor one that is brighteror one that shines more,my diamondis still worth the same amount.It is still valuable.***Here is my diamond.I will shine it.I will put it in the light.I will put it in a gold ring.It is still worth the same.I an show it to the world.I can hide it in a box.It is still worth the same.The diamond is worth a lot of money.Nothing I do can change its worth.*****I am a diamond.I am worth a lot more that a real diamond.I have a lot of value.There is not enough money in the whole worldto replace me.I am uniqueI am specia. I am valuableI am a diamond.****I am a diaomond II can shine brightly.I can do good things.
Wednesday, April 29, 2009
A personal letter to a child validates their importance
Writing personal letters or emails to a young child validates their importance and your love for them, and gives them a concrete piece of paper to hold onto and reread when they need reassurance. It doesn't have to be about anything. Just about them.
Date: Wed,
From:
To: woo
Subject: Dear A
I just wanted to tell you what I have been doing today besides working in the yard and posting on my blogs. Get your mom to show you "My 7 beautiful children" by the way. But that's not why I am writing.
I found those crazy checker/chess boards that folded into four squares and would never stay flat when we tried to play on them and about four o'clock this morning I flattened them out and varnished them to the little yellow and blue plastic tables with the holes in them for legos, that don't fit the ones we have.
Then I took the little chess pieces and weighted them with plaster that Jose was using on our room. This was about the time you left for school.
I put an old screw and plaster in the hollow part so they are a little heavier and stand up better. Do you remember how they always fell down when we tried to get them to stand up?
I have about three partial sets.(that means the pieces are not all there because I stepped on some of them) So I think I'll buy a couple more sets at dollar store and do the same thing with the pieces so we can have a Chess or Checker Tournament in the back yard.
I put more crafts things out on the shelves from down stairs. Boy, I really did not know we had so much fun stuff to do crafts with. I can't wait until you come to do some.
I've been lashing the fence posts up. That means, I have been tying string around the fence posts and uprights where they come together. The places GrandPa was cutting notches so they fit better, I tied string around them so they stay without falling over. The leaves and flowers are really growing.
I think that is so funny. I put the pictures of them on the blog and called it, "My fence is blossoming!" I showed you some of the photos.
Sorry this is such a long letter. I hope you can come over again really soon.
Love you, Grandma.
Date: Wed,
From:
To: woo
Subject: Dear A
I just wanted to tell you what I have been doing today besides working in the yard and posting on my blogs. Get your mom to show you "My 7 beautiful children" by the way. But that's not why I am writing.
I found those crazy checker/chess boards that folded into four squares and would never stay flat when we tried to play on them and about four o'clock this morning I flattened them out and varnished them to the little yellow and blue plastic tables with the holes in them for legos, that don't fit the ones we have.
Then I took the little chess pieces and weighted them with plaster that Jose was using on our room. This was about the time you left for school.
I put an old screw and plaster in the hollow part so they are a little heavier and stand up better. Do you remember how they always fell down when we tried to get them to stand up?
I have about three partial sets.(that means the pieces are not all there because I stepped on some of them) So I think I'll buy a couple more sets at dollar store and do the same thing with the pieces so we can have a Chess or Checker Tournament in the back yard.
I put more crafts things out on the shelves from down stairs. Boy, I really did not know we had so much fun stuff to do crafts with. I can't wait until you come to do some.
I've been lashing the fence posts up. That means, I have been tying string around the fence posts and uprights where they come together. The places GrandPa was cutting notches so they fit better, I tied string around them so they stay without falling over. The leaves and flowers are really growing.
I think that is so funny. I put the pictures of them on the blog and called it, "My fence is blossoming!" I showed you some of the photos.
Sorry this is such a long letter. I hope you can come over again really soon.
Love you, Grandma.
Saturday, April 25, 2009
Family traits are the same all over the World
Saturday, April 25, 2009
Family traits are the same all over the World
Dear Lolyn, Your posts have stirred up the nasties in my family of origin.
Thank you.
We know it will now take time and not bandaids to heal.
Thank you for providing the resourses!
Re: Our Precious, beloved Mother
The only thing you can do is distance yourself emotionally. You can't do anything about it, so there is no need to spend precious emotional energy worrying about it. I am very pleasant to D and J when I see them, and sincerely so, but I certainly don't circulate in their family circle. I just can't stand D pretending the tension is coming from elsewhere.
You also have to realize that Mother creates her own stress by being so stubborn that she doesn't want anyone to help her, especially from D's wife. I get those words from Mother's mouth, this is NOT an assumption. Between that and her intense need to not feel like she is offending or depending on someone, she creates much of it.
Just remember, D betrayed and yes, cheated sister, and yes used her as his pawn for his own gain.
She had worked hard to find internally that she doesn't not have to be eaten up by something that is not her fault. She is healing body and soul. That does not negate D's culpability, but since he recognizes none, and will do nothing to heal himself, none of us can help him either.
Just believe that sister is doing very well. Just discount D 's, "well sister is very mentally ill." She know that. D is currently much, much sicker mentally than she is, but he doesn't know it, and refuses to know it. Just because that is what is it, is no reason for the rest of us to carry it, most especially Mother.
Just remember, D loves to be kind and generous, but unfortunately, he has a long history of taking someone else down with him as collateral damage to him do-good efforts.
I know my note was harsh. It was also true and the truth can be very hard when one doesn't want to hear it. I believe Lamen and Lemuel said that themselves when being called to task.
Dear sister
I have been watching this develop -- from here, as they both e-mail me about
it quite often.
My heart is broken about it, and I don't have any idea what I can do for
them.
your brother
Subject: Our Precious, beloved Mother
D&J,
I don't know what the deal is, but once again I was forwarded one of the
nastiest, disrespectful emails from one of your kids.
I don't know why they were taught to hate our sister, but they hate her with a
vengence that I have never seen before. I asked sister not to forward any
more to me because it literally makes me sick to my stomach.
They say the most outrageous, degrading things imaginable, show disrespect
to everyone in the family, including you two as part of the Jacobs siblings.
They have scolded and berated everything. I suppose they believe everything
they hear and since they have nothing to balance it with, thus they are so
biased they have no more sense than to broil in hatred.
Sister sent some research information to everyone, as she does. Anyone is
free to read or ignore, there are no strings attached, but she got some very
ugly responses as if she was up to something. I certainly don't have time to
read all she posts, even though we email each other multiple times a day.
Our Sister has followed your wishes, per your written email, to cut you out of
all personal, family and business dealings. As far as I know, you have never
recinded that demand. Mother did not know about your written damand until
today. Now she has a better understanding of sister's actions. She actually
thought it was her daughter who was being contentious. I told her no, not so she
was only following D's wishes. She wouldn't have gone at that time if
she had known Mother had company.
I advised her to block all email from your family (she already had). I also
advised her to not share anything else with your family, it obviously is not
appreciated.
Somehow it's, according to your son, "an underhanded way of. . . .; you have
the logo "growing together" when you are the example of the exact opposite
of that," etc. is the essence of what he said.
Why would she throw pearls before swine?
The reason Mother wanted to move away from her apartment in D's home?
Mother can't stand the stress and
contention in your home and the contempt that is shown to her daughter.
Mother is so afraid to offend Jean that it keeps her guts in an uproar.
She has tried to help on the yard, but is so afraid her daughter-in-law will scold her about pulling out a weed that she can't even enjoy that any more.
That's only one of many examples.
I had a very serious, long heart to heart with Mother today about it and was
able to fill in some of the missing information.
Mother always said it takes two to fight, but apparently not so.
The other day, Our sister was trying to talk to Mother,
who can't hear her as it is,
and apparently in a misguided effort to make everything all smiley
and pretend that who knows what?
you two kept interrupting and disturbing the conversation.
Sister considered you non-entities because that was your written
demand previously, so she treated you as such.
You can't wave a wand and make it OK.
Despite some good things you have done for her in the past, You have
damaged our Sister very seriously.
The betrayal she has endured and has now come to peace with in her own mind,
despite no true apology ever from you, is unimaginable.
She has worked hard to make sense of it all.
She has one-sided, for herself been able to work
through years of suffering to have some peace in her life.
She has worked extremely hard to do this, and is now enjoying the rewards of
peace of mind as well as a healing body.
She believes that to hate someone
who has wronged you only hurts yourself and does nothing to help or reform
the other person.
She is protecting herself in a newly found mental and
physical freedom that is amazing.
Despite everything she is well, happy and thriving!
I couldn't be more thrilled about it.
Mother needs to be allowed to see that too.
I stepped in last year was when I could no longer stand to see what you were
doing to her, all the lies, deception, illegal activity, fraudulent
mortgage, the double talk to me, the inability to account for your billing
to her name in any thing close to an itemized list, the outrageous charges
on the bill, the going back on your agreement about her house and then
turning her house and expecting her to pay for it, then leaving her house in
a shambles anyway is beyond me.
I couldn't sit and watch more of it.
She had to have that signed document to protect herself from future attacks.
By the way, get her the patio door you charged her for. For $600 it should
be factory new, not a piece of unmatching trash.
Now she has a person who is doing all the long put off needed repairs and
upgrades that were necessary, but never done, even to making it meet safety
code.
I have no idea what idiot inspected it, but anyone in the world knows
you have a door between the furnace and any sleeping area.
She now has brought that up to code, along with other things.
Am I angry? No. I'm just sick about the attitudes and the pretense.
The rest of us are doing great, but you keep it stirred with your continued
rejection of our little sister and fueling your children's hatred of her.
My kids don't hate you.
Sister's kids don't hate you, but your kids hate her and anything
she says or does, with a vengence.
The thing that makes me sickest is what Mother is suffering in your house.
She is convinced she will get sick and die next year if it does not stop.
Good grief, betrayal was enough, but to ban her from your life in all
aspects and THEN try to make it look like she is the one who is resentful,
etc.
That is a nasty game.
Stop stressing Mother or she will have absolutely no choice to move over to
assisted liveing to save her life!
There is no contention between any siblings except yourself and yourself.
No response is needed. I won't bother to read it anyway.
I am so done with all the crap and poison.
I would certainly hope you wouldn't be tacky enough to share these private
feelings with your children, but if you do, make sure they know that it is
none of their business and that you have betrayed a trust and thrust
unwanted crap on the by your own volition, not from anyone else.
I apologize to our mutual siblings for feeling compelled to write this.
More sincerely than you can even imagine, your other sister that
your have hated for years.
Dear youngest sibling;
If you only knew how many letters I have received that match yours. The world is full of hate filled families that go back generations. Families attempting to hide the mental illness under the rug in full sight in the living room.
What if we replaced the words coronary disease, or diabetis which are also DNA based inherited diseases for the words Mental Health disorder. Would there be so much anger, so much denial, so much family bickering about who is sicker than the others. No there would be an all out rush to read the web sights that give information on how to prevent, cure and wipe out those diseases. Why in God's name are we so afraid to say, yea our family inherited this vile disease, it is not just Auntie that has it it is all of us and if we don't do something our children will destroy their lives and our Grand children will suffer amazingly tortured existances on this earth.
Make it go away. You can and because you can you are responsible. God will smite you if you do not.
If you don't want to read my blog, Lickin' and Groomin' Read the original research on psychoeducation.org. Read something. Do something. Save your kids. Produce non bipolar grandkids. Dont stay in denial. You will be judged accordingly.
Posted by LoLyn at 10:39 AM
Family traits are the same all over the World
Dear Lolyn, Your posts have stirred up the nasties in my family of origin.
Thank you.
We know it will now take time and not bandaids to heal.
Thank you for providing the resourses!
Re: Our Precious, beloved Mother
The only thing you can do is distance yourself emotionally. You can't do anything about it, so there is no need to spend precious emotional energy worrying about it. I am very pleasant to D and J when I see them, and sincerely so, but I certainly don't circulate in their family circle. I just can't stand D pretending the tension is coming from elsewhere.
You also have to realize that Mother creates her own stress by being so stubborn that she doesn't want anyone to help her, especially from D's wife. I get those words from Mother's mouth, this is NOT an assumption. Between that and her intense need to not feel like she is offending or depending on someone, she creates much of it.
Just remember, D betrayed and yes, cheated sister, and yes used her as his pawn for his own gain.
She had worked hard to find internally that she doesn't not have to be eaten up by something that is not her fault. She is healing body and soul. That does not negate D's culpability, but since he recognizes none, and will do nothing to heal himself, none of us can help him either.
Just believe that sister is doing very well. Just discount D 's, "well sister is very mentally ill." She know that. D is currently much, much sicker mentally than she is, but he doesn't know it, and refuses to know it. Just because that is what is it, is no reason for the rest of us to carry it, most especially Mother.
Just remember, D loves to be kind and generous, but unfortunately, he has a long history of taking someone else down with him as collateral damage to him do-good efforts.
I know my note was harsh. It was also true and the truth can be very hard when one doesn't want to hear it. I believe Lamen and Lemuel said that themselves when being called to task.
Dear sister
I have been watching this develop -- from here, as they both e-mail me about
it quite often.
My heart is broken about it, and I don't have any idea what I can do for
them.
your brother
Subject: Our Precious, beloved Mother
D&J,
I don't know what the deal is, but once again I was forwarded one of the
nastiest, disrespectful emails from one of your kids.
I don't know why they were taught to hate our sister, but they hate her with a
vengence that I have never seen before. I asked sister not to forward any
more to me because it literally makes me sick to my stomach.
They say the most outrageous, degrading things imaginable, show disrespect
to everyone in the family, including you two as part of the Jacobs siblings.
They have scolded and berated everything. I suppose they believe everything
they hear and since they have nothing to balance it with, thus they are so
biased they have no more sense than to broil in hatred.
Sister sent some research information to everyone, as she does. Anyone is
free to read or ignore, there are no strings attached, but she got some very
ugly responses as if she was up to something. I certainly don't have time to
read all she posts, even though we email each other multiple times a day.
Our Sister has followed your wishes, per your written email, to cut you out of
all personal, family and business dealings. As far as I know, you have never
recinded that demand. Mother did not know about your written damand until
today. Now she has a better understanding of sister's actions. She actually
thought it was her daughter who was being contentious. I told her no, not so she
was only following D's wishes. She wouldn't have gone at that time if
she had known Mother had company.
I advised her to block all email from your family (she already had). I also
advised her to not share anything else with your family, it obviously is not
appreciated.
Somehow it's, according to your son, "an underhanded way of. . . .; you have
the logo "growing together" when you are the example of the exact opposite
of that," etc. is the essence of what he said.
Why would she throw pearls before swine?
The reason Mother wanted to move away from her apartment in D's home?
Mother can't stand the stress and
contention in your home and the contempt that is shown to her daughter.
Mother is so afraid to offend Jean that it keeps her guts in an uproar.
She has tried to help on the yard, but is so afraid her daughter-in-law will scold her about pulling out a weed that she can't even enjoy that any more.
That's only one of many examples.
I had a very serious, long heart to heart with Mother today about it and was
able to fill in some of the missing information.
Mother always said it takes two to fight, but apparently not so.
The other day, Our sister was trying to talk to Mother,
who can't hear her as it is,
and apparently in a misguided effort to make everything all smiley
and pretend that who knows what?
you two kept interrupting and disturbing the conversation.
Sister considered you non-entities because that was your written
demand previously, so she treated you as such.
You can't wave a wand and make it OK.
Despite some good things you have done for her in the past, You have
damaged our Sister very seriously.
The betrayal she has endured and has now come to peace with in her own mind,
despite no true apology ever from you, is unimaginable.
She has worked hard to make sense of it all.
She has one-sided, for herself been able to work
through years of suffering to have some peace in her life.
She has worked extremely hard to do this, and is now enjoying the rewards of
peace of mind as well as a healing body.
She believes that to hate someone
who has wronged you only hurts yourself and does nothing to help or reform
the other person.
She is protecting herself in a newly found mental and
physical freedom that is amazing.
Despite everything she is well, happy and thriving!
I couldn't be more thrilled about it.
Mother needs to be allowed to see that too.
I stepped in last year was when I could no longer stand to see what you were
doing to her, all the lies, deception, illegal activity, fraudulent
mortgage, the double talk to me, the inability to account for your billing
to her name in any thing close to an itemized list, the outrageous charges
on the bill, the going back on your agreement about her house and then
turning her house and expecting her to pay for it, then leaving her house in
a shambles anyway is beyond me.
I couldn't sit and watch more of it.
She had to have that signed document to protect herself from future attacks.
By the way, get her the patio door you charged her for. For $600 it should
be factory new, not a piece of unmatching trash.
Now she has a person who is doing all the long put off needed repairs and
upgrades that were necessary, but never done, even to making it meet safety
code.
I have no idea what idiot inspected it, but anyone in the world knows
you have a door between the furnace and any sleeping area.
She now has brought that up to code, along with other things.
Am I angry? No. I'm just sick about the attitudes and the pretense.
The rest of us are doing great, but you keep it stirred with your continued
rejection of our little sister and fueling your children's hatred of her.
My kids don't hate you.
Sister's kids don't hate you, but your kids hate her and anything
she says or does, with a vengence.
The thing that makes me sickest is what Mother is suffering in your house.
She is convinced she will get sick and die next year if it does not stop.
Good grief, betrayal was enough, but to ban her from your life in all
aspects and THEN try to make it look like she is the one who is resentful,
etc.
That is a nasty game.
Stop stressing Mother or she will have absolutely no choice to move over to
assisted liveing to save her life!
There is no contention between any siblings except yourself and yourself.
No response is needed. I won't bother to read it anyway.
I am so done with all the crap and poison.
I would certainly hope you wouldn't be tacky enough to share these private
feelings with your children, but if you do, make sure they know that it is
none of their business and that you have betrayed a trust and thrust
unwanted crap on the by your own volition, not from anyone else.
I apologize to our mutual siblings for feeling compelled to write this.
More sincerely than you can even imagine, your other sister that
your have hated for years.
Dear youngest sibling;
If you only knew how many letters I have received that match yours. The world is full of hate filled families that go back generations. Families attempting to hide the mental illness under the rug in full sight in the living room.
What if we replaced the words coronary disease, or diabetis which are also DNA based inherited diseases for the words Mental Health disorder. Would there be so much anger, so much denial, so much family bickering about who is sicker than the others. No there would be an all out rush to read the web sights that give information on how to prevent, cure and wipe out those diseases. Why in God's name are we so afraid to say, yea our family inherited this vile disease, it is not just Auntie that has it it is all of us and if we don't do something our children will destroy their lives and our Grand children will suffer amazingly tortured existances on this earth.
Make it go away. You can and because you can you are responsible. God will smite you if you do not.
If you don't want to read my blog, Lickin' and Groomin' Read the original research on psychoeducation.org. Read something. Do something. Save your kids. Produce non bipolar grandkids. Dont stay in denial. You will be judged accordingly.
Posted by LoLyn at 10:39 AM
Tuesday, April 21, 2009
Lickin & groomin in Reverse "To Mother"
From: Marie Hunter
Date: 4/21/2009 1:53:11 PM
To: LoLyn
Subject: Re: Our MOther
WOW!
If she doesn't get something highly positive from this, she never will
from anything. Thank you for sharing.
Marie J Hunter
From: Glenn Jacobs
Date: 4/21/2009 1:41:58 PM
To: LoLyn
Subject: Re: Our MOther
Lynda,
I am glad you wrote this essay to Mother.
I am only sorry I did not realize the connections and write the same essay to her myself.
Glenn
----- Original Message -----
From: LoLyn
To: hunterma@uvu.edu ; glenn3@frontiernet.net
Sent: Tuesday, April 21, 2009 11:50 AM
Subject: Our MOther
I am mailing this to Our mother today.
April 21, 2009
Dear Mother (Lucy Baca Jacobs Livermore)
I am not your enemy.
I’m sorry you are so afraid of me, and choose to interpret the things I try to share with you as such a burden and so much trouble.
I love you very much.
I have many happy memories of my childhood and my young motherhood with you there at my side.
On the other hand there are painful flash backs that haunt me constantly and create in me a lack of peace,
a post traumatic nightmare state that causes me a great deal of harm.
I know you know exactly what I mean, because you have the same type of flashbacks from post traumatic stress.
For thirty years I’ve been trying to share with you what I learn about myself ,
hoping to both help myself and you to have more peaceful lives.
I know first hand how difficult it is to live with the tapes in our heads of abuse and grief;
your actual events were so much more tragic than any of mine,
I can’t even stand to think of how much grief and pain you have born.
But you carried the resilient gene and in doing so, I now have figured out,
you were able to dissociate from the pain of abuse in early childhood, in elementary school, high school and marriage.
Dissociation used to be described as having a double personality.
You actually perceive yourself drifting away from your body to avoid the pain;
some even have memory lapse or time loss to avoid the painful moments or hours of their lives when the pain was unbearable.
You still do that to avoid the pain of your childhood rather than facing it.
Just telling me to “rip up that chapter” that described your abuse,
and telling me “that secret will go to my grave.”
That 90 years later trying to cover a secret shame.
The shame that you should not even own. You did nothing wrong.
You are not to blame for your step mother’s insane behaviors;
for your fathers negligence or ignorance of the facts.
Really, how could he NOT know about it.
But that would shatter your perfect image of him, and drop him from his celestial pedestal.
They are probably not to blame either; as they were probably as much victims as were you, and I.
Mother. The abuse was not your fault.
Your Father probably loved and adored you as you remember, but it was a different era.
He did not know what to do to protect you.
Leaving on trips and avoiding confrontation with the bitch was all he knew how to do to protect himself.
You did nothing wrong. You did not deserve to be treated the way they treated you.
You deserved to be treated like a princess, a priestess, a goddess that you were created to be;
a child of your Heavenly Father who loves you beyond all your ability to recognize.
The youngest daughter of a triplet. The rightful ascendant to the Mayan Throne.
The greatest granddaughter to escape Spain as an early immigrant to the young country of Mexico.
You can rumple this up, light a match and burn it; but it will do no good.
You have read it. It is in your mind now, and if you will allow it to dwell there,
you will have some modicum of peace for the rest of your days.
That’s all I want for you. I’m not trying to torture you or hurt you.
Lola Lynda
AKA LoLyn
Date: 4/21/2009 1:53:11 PM
To: LoLyn
Subject: Re: Our MOther
WOW!
If she doesn't get something highly positive from this, she never will
from anything. Thank you for sharing.
Marie J Hunter
From: Glenn Jacobs
Date: 4/21/2009 1:41:58 PM
To: LoLyn
Subject: Re: Our MOther
Lynda,
I am glad you wrote this essay to Mother.
I am only sorry I did not realize the connections and write the same essay to her myself.
Glenn
----- Original Message -----
From: LoLyn
To: hunterma@uvu.edu ; glenn3@frontiernet.net
Sent: Tuesday, April 21, 2009 11:50 AM
Subject: Our MOther
I am mailing this to Our mother today.
April 21, 2009
Dear Mother (Lucy Baca Jacobs Livermore)
I am not your enemy.
I’m sorry you are so afraid of me, and choose to interpret the things I try to share with you as such a burden and so much trouble.
I love you very much.
I have many happy memories of my childhood and my young motherhood with you there at my side.
On the other hand there are painful flash backs that haunt me constantly and create in me a lack of peace,
a post traumatic nightmare state that causes me a great deal of harm.
I know you know exactly what I mean, because you have the same type of flashbacks from post traumatic stress.
For thirty years I’ve been trying to share with you what I learn about myself ,
hoping to both help myself and you to have more peaceful lives.
I know first hand how difficult it is to live with the tapes in our heads of abuse and grief;
your actual events were so much more tragic than any of mine,
I can’t even stand to think of how much grief and pain you have born.
But you carried the resilient gene and in doing so, I now have figured out,
you were able to dissociate from the pain of abuse in early childhood, in elementary school, high school and marriage.
Dissociation used to be described as having a double personality.
You actually perceive yourself drifting away from your body to avoid the pain;
some even have memory lapse or time loss to avoid the painful moments or hours of their lives when the pain was unbearable.
You still do that to avoid the pain of your childhood rather than facing it.
Just telling me to “rip up that chapter” that described your abuse,
and telling me “that secret will go to my grave.”
That 90 years later trying to cover a secret shame.
The shame that you should not even own. You did nothing wrong.
You are not to blame for your step mother’s insane behaviors;
for your fathers negligence or ignorance of the facts.
Really, how could he NOT know about it.
But that would shatter your perfect image of him, and drop him from his celestial pedestal.
They are probably not to blame either; as they were probably as much victims as were you, and I.
Mother. The abuse was not your fault.
Your Father probably loved and adored you as you remember, but it was a different era.
He did not know what to do to protect you.
Leaving on trips and avoiding confrontation with the bitch was all he knew how to do to protect himself.
You did nothing wrong. You did not deserve to be treated the way they treated you.
You deserved to be treated like a princess, a priestess, a goddess that you were created to be;
a child of your Heavenly Father who loves you beyond all your ability to recognize.
The youngest daughter of a triplet. The rightful ascendant to the Mayan Throne.
The greatest granddaughter to escape Spain as an early immigrant to the young country of Mexico.
You can rumple this up, light a match and burn it; but it will do no good.
You have read it. It is in your mind now, and if you will allow it to dwell there,
you will have some modicum of peace for the rest of your days.
That’s all I want for you. I’m not trying to torture you or hurt you.
Lola Lynda
AKA LoLyn
Sunday, April 19, 2009
Bi polar information website a must
Sent: Friday, April 03, 2009 5:13 PM
Subject: Bi Polar spectrum (the whole rainbow)
I went to a conference in SLC given by Dr, James Phelps. M.D. whose website is
psycheducation.org
It is an interactive website with everything from Toxic Medication, seperating ADD from Bi Polar; the history of BPD; Blue lights, light boxes and dark '
therapy; and most important
most of the research is in the twenty first century, in the last five to ten years.
From the forties to the end of the twentieth century much was discovered and researched about BiPolar Disorder. Exponential additions have been made this decade.
I can't begin to tell you how exciting it was to hear him speak and to know that the information I had paid dearly for is on the internet, as well as in the note books he provided.
To go to Dr. Phelps' website psycheducation.org
For other helpful tools
motivational interview.org
manic depressive.org
gives you forms and evaluation procedures
Refer everyone you know that struggles with Bipolar to these websites to answer all questions and to take to their doctor for proper diagnisis
Subject: Bi Polar spectrum (the whole rainbow)
I went to a conference in SLC given by Dr, James Phelps. M.D. whose website is
psycheducation.org
It is an interactive website with everything from Toxic Medication, seperating ADD from Bi Polar; the history of BPD; Blue lights, light boxes and dark '
therapy; and most important
most of the research is in the twenty first century, in the last five to ten years.
From the forties to the end of the twentieth century much was discovered and researched about BiPolar Disorder. Exponential additions have been made this decade.
I can't begin to tell you how exciting it was to hear him speak and to know that the information I had paid dearly for is on the internet, as well as in the note books he provided.
To go to Dr. Phelps' website psycheducation.org
For other helpful tools
motivational interview.org
manic depressive.org
gives you forms and evaluation procedures
Refer everyone you know that struggles with Bipolar to these websites to answer all questions and to take to their doctor for proper diagnisis
Tuesday, April 14, 2009
Why use a counselor?
© 2008 Utah Mental Health Counselors Association. Site by third sun productions.
Mental health counselors are uniquely qualified to provide high quality care that’s more affordable than other practitioners.
FACTS:
According to the report, "Mental Health, United States, 2002" published by the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services (HHS) Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA), more than 100,000 professional counselors are licensed or certified for independent practice in the United States.
The majority of national behavioral health managed care companies reimburse mental health counselors for services they provide.
The median cost per session for mental health counselors is $85, compared to a median cost of $100 and $145 for psychologists and psychiatrists respectively, according to the October 2000 issue of Psychotherapy Finances.
Forty-eight states and the District of Columbia license or certify mental health counselors for private practice.
Mental health counselors adhere to a rigorous code of ethics.
Mental health counseling is a distinct profession with national standards for education, training and clinical practice. The American Mental Health Counselors Association (AMHCA) is the professional membership organization that represents the mental health counseling profession. Clinical membership in AMHCA requires a master's degree in counseling or a closely related mental health field and adherence to AMHCA's National Standards for Clinical Practice.
Graduate education and clinical training prepare mental health counselors to provide a full range of services for individuals, couples, families, adolescents and children. The core areas of mental health programs approved by the Council for Accreditation of Counseling and Related Educational Programs include:
Diagnosis and psychopathology
Psychotherapy
Psychological testing and assessment
Professional orientation
Research and program evaluation
Group counseling
Human growth and development
Counseling theory
Social and cultural foundations
Lifestyle and career development
Supervised practicum and internship
Licensure requirements for mental health counselors are equivalent to those for clinical social workers and marriage and family therapists - two other disciplines that require a master's degree for independent status.
A licensed mental health counselor has met or exceeded the following professional qualifications:
Earned a master's degree in counseling or a closely related mental health discipline;
Completed a minimum of two years post master's clinical work under the supervision of a licensed or certified mental health professional; and
Passed a state-developed or national licensure or certification examination.
Mental health counselors practice in a variety of settings, including independent practice, community agencies, managed behavioral health care organizations, integrated delivery systems, hospitals, employee assistance programs and substance abuse treatment centers. Mental health counselors are highly skilled professionals who provide a full range of services including:
Assessment and diagnosis
Psychotherapy
Treatment planning and utilization review
Brief and solution-focused therapy
Alcoholism and substance abuse treatment
Psychoeducational and prevention programs
Crisis management
In today's managed care environment, mental health counselors are uniquely qualified to meet the challenges of providing high quality care in a cost-effective manner. Mental health counselors provide flexible, consumer-oriented therapy. They combine traditional psychotherapy with a practical problem solving approach that creates a dynamic and efficient path for change and problem resolution.
Links
NBCC
AMHCA
State of Utah Licensing Board
AMHCA Code of Ethics
© 2008 Utah Mental Health Counselors Association. Site by third sun productions
Mental health counselors are uniquely qualified to provide high quality care that’s more affordable than other practitioners.
FACTS:
According to the report, "Mental Health, United States, 2002" published by the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services (HHS) Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA), more than 100,000 professional counselors are licensed or certified for independent practice in the United States.
The majority of national behavioral health managed care companies reimburse mental health counselors for services they provide.
The median cost per session for mental health counselors is $85, compared to a median cost of $100 and $145 for psychologists and psychiatrists respectively, according to the October 2000 issue of Psychotherapy Finances.
Forty-eight states and the District of Columbia license or certify mental health counselors for private practice.
Mental health counselors adhere to a rigorous code of ethics.
Mental health counseling is a distinct profession with national standards for education, training and clinical practice. The American Mental Health Counselors Association (AMHCA) is the professional membership organization that represents the mental health counseling profession. Clinical membership in AMHCA requires a master's degree in counseling or a closely related mental health field and adherence to AMHCA's National Standards for Clinical Practice.
Graduate education and clinical training prepare mental health counselors to provide a full range of services for individuals, couples, families, adolescents and children. The core areas of mental health programs approved by the Council for Accreditation of Counseling and Related Educational Programs include:
Diagnosis and psychopathology
Psychotherapy
Psychological testing and assessment
Professional orientation
Research and program evaluation
Group counseling
Human growth and development
Counseling theory
Social and cultural foundations
Lifestyle and career development
Supervised practicum and internship
Licensure requirements for mental health counselors are equivalent to those for clinical social workers and marriage and family therapists - two other disciplines that require a master's degree for independent status.
A licensed mental health counselor has met or exceeded the following professional qualifications:
Earned a master's degree in counseling or a closely related mental health discipline;
Completed a minimum of two years post master's clinical work under the supervision of a licensed or certified mental health professional; and
Passed a state-developed or national licensure or certification examination.
Mental health counselors practice in a variety of settings, including independent practice, community agencies, managed behavioral health care organizations, integrated delivery systems, hospitals, employee assistance programs and substance abuse treatment centers. Mental health counselors are highly skilled professionals who provide a full range of services including:
Assessment and diagnosis
Psychotherapy
Treatment planning and utilization review
Brief and solution-focused therapy
Alcoholism and substance abuse treatment
Psychoeducational and prevention programs
Crisis management
In today's managed care environment, mental health counselors are uniquely qualified to meet the challenges of providing high quality care in a cost-effective manner. Mental health counselors provide flexible, consumer-oriented therapy. They combine traditional psychotherapy with a practical problem solving approach that creates a dynamic and efficient path for change and problem resolution.
Links
NBCC
AMHCA
State of Utah Licensing Board
AMHCA Code of Ethics
© 2008 Utah Mental Health Counselors Association. Site by third sun productions
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